"How To Determine Who To Marry" Pastor John K. Jenkins Sr. (Powerful)So, I like this guy. Would it be wrong if I told him I like him? Scripture is clear about not being yoked with unbelievers, but both Catholics and Baptists are believers, right? And when it comes to two different Christian faiths, I feel that it can work out, but only if you come together in unity regarding your faith. But what does that mean?
One of the things I say at The Village, on repeat, is that nothing good has ever come from a boyfriend and girlfriend cuddling on the couch watching a movie from 11pm to 1am. It has never ended in a discussion about cinematography in the history of watching movies on couches.
To put yourself in that position to begin with is a foolish one. What works is being in public, guarding space alone, not putting yourself in situations. I think singles have a tendency to think more highly of their own self-control than they should. So I think dating in groups, or dating in public, is important, and we see that in Scripture. In Song of Solomon you see a growing desire to physically be intimate, and yet she describes their date as being under this canopy of leaves and this rug of grass Song of Solomon — They are outside.
They are at a park. They are in a forest. They are in the public eye, because they have a growing passion to be intimate physically. And so they have positioned themselves publicly so as to not give themselves over to their lusts.
If a man or woman is trying to stop looking at pornography, but seems they cannot many Christian men struggle hereare they ready to date, or not? If not, what is the line between ready and not ready to date for a Christian porn addict?
So this is an extremely complex question that is hard to answer outside of actually knowing the people involved. My knee-jerk reaction is: No, you are not ready. Where is mortification happening? Where is vivication happening? Are we saying that this guy, or this girl, stumbles once a year, or a couple of times a month?
And where are we in relation to frequency, healing, victory? I think all of those questions would come into play on whether or not I would encourage someone to be in a relationship while they wrestled.
And so without kind of that information, it becomes hard to just lay down an answer. The truth is every one of us are coming into our relationships with the opposite sex needing further sanctification, needing growth, needing our identity in Christ, and needing to have parts of our flesh mortified.
Are there any other circumstances in which you, as a pastor, would tell someone that they have no business pursuing a dating relationship? When I am telling someone or leveraging my relationship with someone in regards to dating or not dating, I am always doing that within the covenant of me being their pastor and them being a covenant member of the church. From the beginning, our relationship is not just one where I have a cursory view of their life, but also one where I know where they are.Evee's First DATE! Special Talk about Puberty, Babies & Periods!
I have often times recommended someone hold off dating until the season that they were in with the Lord has changed. I told a young man last year that, because of where he was in his relationship with the Lord, he should hold off pursuing a girlfriend until he had given himself back over to growing in his relationship with the Lord. Guys were pursuing him and he was avoiding them.
So for the past almost 4 months I've been dating this wonderful girl. She is southern Baptist and will always be that way. Well recently while. 5 Things No One Really Tells You About Christian Dating Ask your relationship questions in the Ask Olivia Girl Talk forum or in the comments below and I. Finding a person to love and share your life with is the reason most people date. It is important to find a person that shares the same vision and values as you do, .
He had a relational conflict with some guys, and he was refusing to connect with them and reconcile. I recommended to him that this would be a really foolish time to date, and it would end in heartbreak, either his heart or the heart of some poor girl at our church. Large numbers of men and women in the Church represent this population.
How does Jesus Christ help the unique struggles that those Christians face in a dating relationship and as they look forward to marriage? The home I grew up in was wrought with just about every type of abuse imaginable.
And it does leave some marks, and it creates some baggage, not only for dating but then into the marriage that will need to be gospel-ed. For the one that has not endured abuse, but is free from that type of baggage, the gospel should create patience, compassion, and empathy to walk alongside of the person who has bore the brunt of this abuse.
For the one that has borne the abuse, the gospel begins to reshape our identity, it begins to reshape our hearts and wounds, and it enables us to begin to trust again, slowly, but surely. This is how the gospel has worked in my own life and in my own marriage.
Lauren was able to be very empathetic and compassionate and gracious and not demanding while the gospel did its work of healing and repairing the broken parts of me. Many Christian singles who cannot find a spouse end up dating non-Christians and compromising themselves.
She is a very reasonable girl and understands my point of view, but there will be a time, I'm sure, when our differing views will become more. I am a devoted Catholic, I however seem to have problems defending things, like she says stuff to me like "we don't believe in baptism as an. I am a Baptist in a relationship with a Catholic. But it would be wrong to say that God is tying you to this one woman, but it isn't working out as well as you.
What would you say to them? First, I just want to totally affirm the desire to be married. It may even be a desire woven into them by the Creator of the universe.
As a devoted Catholic, you can only date a devoted Baptist if you are thoroughly grounded in the faith and can provided a ready defense for all of her questions arguments and objections. It sounds like you are have some problems with this.
Since you are feeling confused, either read up on the Catechism and provide a good, worthy explanation to these issues, or end the relationship now, before she convinces you to leave the Church or puts so many doubts in your mind, you walk away and spend years of your adult life looking for something that you had all along.
She sounds like a nice girl and you have had some good times together, but her father is a Baptist minister and she will be expected to give him a nice, Baptist son-in-law. There a plenty of nice Catholic girls out there looking for a nice Catholic guy like you. The part that bothers me in your post, OP, is the definitive language.
If not for that, I would agree with those who have suggested you could maybe set some ground rules for respectfully learning about one another with the understanding that no one would convert, and you could progress on toward happily ever after. Search your heart, pray, and pay attention to the language used - words, tone, context, etc. I am dating a Baptist girl whose father is a preacher Apologetics.
Rosebud77 September 19,am 3. It will depend on the situation. Rosebud77 September 19,am 6. Wise wise words, Sad is it not that this happens… 3 should be the norm. I get anti-Catholic snide remarks all the time.
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Start reading now. Maybe Scott Hahn. Get the other books that I have recommended. But be prepared for a life of absolute living Hell. Sarcelle September 19,pm 9. OraLabora September 19,pm They are divorced since many years. We are still married since 28 years. Greetings, friend. Good luck and God bless! Worth listening to. God Bless. This is truly a bad idea. Hockeygurl September 19,pm Hate starts with words like these. You know the type: 26, seemingly unattached no ring and living with a cat or a female roommate.
Fast forward 24 years, I'm dating this amazing man who is Baptist. . I read a testimony where this young woman said God told her to marry an. Basically, the ideal Southern Baptist dating timeline looks like this: a To many of the girls this book read as a manual, a sort of “One Year. If we are talking about a young man and a young woman who are actively dating, who have defined their relationship, and who know they are.
Around the time, I was taking a break from my journalism degree to do a semester at a small undergraduate program offered at the seminary most closely associated with my Kentucky church.
Photos of these Pinterest-worthy accomplishments would be posted on Facebook or Tweeted with hastags such as domesticswag. The one year count-down clock began ticking right then and there.
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There was no room for casual dating. The young women were cautioned by the faculty and their wives not to let a man see them without a purpose. Obviously, that purpose was marriage.